#14 - Why We Get Emotionally Triggered In Our Closest Relationships
In this episode, Brett Nikula shares why we get emotionally triggered in our closest relationships—and how to begin understanding and addressing those triggers in a healthy, connected way. Recorded just days before Christmas and the anticipated birth of his 8th child, Brett unpacks how our attachment longings shape the way we interpret and react to everyday moments in marriage.
From personal stories to real-life examples, Brett helps you connect the dots between frustration, defensiveness, resentment—and the deeper longings underneath. Plus, he shares details on the upcoming free Marriage Workshop for Business Owners happening this Tuesday.
If you’ve ever wondered Why do I react so strongly to this? — this episode will help you make sense of what’s happening inside you, and give you a better way forward.
In This Episode:
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A season of waiting: Baby #8 is almost here 👶
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What attachment longings are and how they get activated
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Why your brain sometimes misreads relationship signals
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The real reason you feel angry, defensive, or shut down
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How to communicate your inner experience more clearly
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Why learning this framework changes more than your marriage
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The roadmap from conflict to connection
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An invitation to the free live workshop on Tuesday!
Mentioned in the Episode:
👉 Sign up for the FREE Marriage Workshop for Business Owners
www.marriageessentials.com/workshop
🧭 Learn more about the Roadmap from Conflict to Connection
(The full framework to clarify emotions, repair patterns, and rebuild closeness.)
Quotes to Remember:
“We don’t get triggered because of the event. We get triggered because of what that event means to us—and what it stirs up underneath.”
“Your brain doesn’t always get it right. But when you know what to look for, you can start having a completely different conversation with your spouse.”
Connect with Brett:
Instagram: @marriage_essentials
Website: www.marriageessentials.com
